A Call One Night

One evening I was called to the Emergency Room at one of the Hospitals I serve.  It was for a patient who was involved in what is called Intimate Partner Violence. (IVP) This patient was very emotional, and would not talk about his experience, including cooperating with the Police.   They thought the Chaplain could help him calm down and bring comfort.  Instead, the thought of the Chaplain's presence made him nervous. I almost did not speak with him because of his nervousness.   That is until he actually met  me and we started talking, I was able to put him at ease. 

He said he was afraid the Chaplain would judge him and his lifestyle as a gay man.  Would lay the blame for his IVP situation on him. He said when he saw me and began to talk with me he felt I was different from his experience with "religious people"  HOW SAD that is. What a shame.   Instead of bringing comfort, the experience is judgment and hate.

At least there was a different experience for this patient. I'm thankful fro being enabled to be in the right place at the right time...a divine appointment?

Monday Medley: Zedd - Clarity (feat. Foxes)

Yesterday I began orienting the new Chaplain for Sunday's .  I still did on call last night, and it was a tough one.  I had four calls to the Emergency room. I did not get much sleep.  The song for today is Clarity hope you enjoy it.

Scoped Out

Yesterday I was in the grocery store, in a hurry as usual.  As I walked in I noticed three guys together shopping. One had some kind of bag on his shoulder, they were looking at fruit.  I was in a hurry so I walked on by to the back of the store to do my shopping.  Several times in the store I found myself where one or more of these guys was shopping.

On the last row, it was just the four of us in the isle, the first two of them turned and said hello to me.  That is when the one with the shoulder bag crossed my path made eye contact with me, winked and said nice! Of course I returned the complement, which was an honest return since he was a nice looking guy. 

Then once I was in the check out line, the guy left his buddies in the other line and joined me in my line. We made small talk, I wish now I had asked for his number or offered him mine. After all that kind of thing rarely happens to me! Oh well, lost opportunity.  Maybe I will run into him again?

All the same its nice to be noticed!



 

Monday Medley: I Dare You To Move - Switchfoot with lyrics

Another Monday, the start of a new work week. My prayer is with those involved in the jet crash, the injured, the investigators.  My prayer is also with all the Federal workers who are beginning weekly furloughs this week, the grid lock in Congress is now impacting individual lives where it hurts.  Both parties are at fault, but the Tea party is particularly to blame, since they refuse to compromise or move one inch.  This song is for them!

On another note, my Sunday replacement begins this week!  It will be a relief to give up one on call night, a twenty four hour shift at that.  I will still have to cover next Sunday, and "supervise" for the next few weeks. 

Hope you enjoy the song

Saturday Thoughts

On call last night was uneventful, which can be good for the patients.  There are a lot of thoughts going through my mind today.  Rather eclectic. 

First, I am pleased with the Supreme Court rulings on Same Sex marriage.  That gives me some hope for the future.  Its nice to know there are some legislators who are embracing the rulings and making preparations for the future legislation in regards to this issue. Its a good thing.

On relationships, and friendships. No matter close or not, work related, or personal,  always seem to be complicated in some way. But nothing real in life worth anything is ever simple.  Especially where love is involved. And unrequited love is such a painful bitch! One of my prayers is not to experience this again in my life, but that is the risk one takes when opening up to another person.  It can be worth the risk.  I don't regret taking the risk either.   I still hope one day to find that special someone, if that person exists. If not well  I have friends in my life to whom I offer and give love no matter what. Who I could never turn my back on, who are worth the struggles of relating and  their love is returned. True friends in your life can be like family, the family you choose.

I read a quote today, "Friends can be lovers, but lovers are not always friends" there is truth in that.

Wow does that sound mushy or what?  

On a lighter note, my plans for starting classes are in motion, I have a meeting this next week with the Admissions Director to discuss the classes I plan to take this school year, and the financing, also possible aid sources.  I plan to take a class on campus the fall semester, I think that will give me a good start, the winter semester will be online.  That will save me the trouble of winter travel. 

My roommate and I will be moving to a new place in another part of town in about a month.  I hope this new place will be a better experience for us than where we are now.  Especially maintenance wise. The one thing I will miss about this complex, is the lake, trees, wildlife and peaceful setting.  But I won't miss the parking issues, water leaks, out of date appliances, and HVAC.  Unfortunately idiot neighbors are every where. 

Well I think that is enough thought letting for one post.
Happy Saturday!

 

Happy Fourth !!!

HAPPY FOURTH OF JULY

This year the Gay Community can celebrate the Supreme Court rulings in favor of Same Sex Unions! May we one day be truly free to marry, in  religious or civil unions.  I understand there are bills being prepared to extend federal benefits for those in same sex marriages.  I hope they pass.

Today is a day to celebrate FREEDOM! 

 

God bless America 4th of July song

Today is My Sister's Birthday A Birthday Monday Medley

Ok I won't say the number, but today is my sister's birthday. She is an avid  blogger, reader,  picture taker and poster, nature lover and gardener.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

 

 

 

http://youtu.be/-hyJsoPosCE Happy Birthday

 

Monday Medley: Gotta Feeling

Today I want  to share a song by the Black Eyed Peas, I Gotta a Feeling,
Hope you enjoy it, nothing special to report.

http://youtu.be/8tiPAvmy3eA

 

A Song to Share: Same Love

Now this is a song to share. I was pleased to hear this song on the radio, and I looked it up,  So now I want to share it here. I like how this song makes the point for marriage equality.  Love,  does not know boundaries.  Love between a same sex couple is the same as love between a man and a woman. It should be recognized.

Same Love Macklemore and Ryan Lewis
http://youtu.be/g1TBgcctcco

As stated previously in this blog, same sex attraction is not a choice, its part of one's make up the same as heterosexuality is. Society has made it something it should never be, this has made some many hide it, hide from it. Hate toward the LGBT community happens constantly.

The religious community for a large part has played a role in promoting this hiding, and promoting hate toward the LGBT community as a whole. In my view, as a Christian minister, the Bible has been misused in the process of promoting hate and exclusion. As stated in the song if hate is preached, the Holy Water becomes poison.  That is a crime.

This is why some many walk away from "religion"  Some from God.

The love I experience is not cheap, its not wrong.  The love I experience is wonderful, beautiful, as special as that of any straight couple.

God gives love, God IS love, so by this definition love between two men, or two women is a God thing.

I Corinthians 13 The love chapter of the Bible includes

Love is kind, love is patient, love does not take into account a wrong suffered. . love never fails, Fath, Hope love, the greatest of these is LOVE.

 

Monday Medley: Disturbia

The song of the week is Disturbia by Rihanna.  Its a Disturbia kind of Monday

A typical weekend for me, work.  its time for another edition of Gay in the News, so be looking for that in the next few days. Making plans for the fall semester at the seminary, and I'm trying to decide the best way to start out.  Online or on campus. There is a course  that is part of my program that is offered Tuesday evening from 5 to 7, its a 1.5 credit course.  Might be the right class to start with, I think I will take an online course for the winter.  Stay tuned for the plan.

Hope you enjoy this weeks selection.

 http://youtu.be/sTKY5GTQ1HQ

Monday Medley, Give Me Everything.

Another Monday! It rolls around regularly doesn't it?  A busy week ahead, I'm doing three nights on call this week.  The extra on-call is on Wednesday night, I hope it won't be too busy.  I am told the single most unhealthy thing I do is over night on-call! Sleep interruption, deprivation is very unhealthy.  I hope I can get to the place where my work is day time and restore that natural rhythm of life. At least that is a goal! 

Today I want to share a song.. Give Me Everything

http://youtu.be/EPo5wWmKEaI
 

Monday Medley, This is your Life, Switchfoot, a Song of Faith

Good Monday today.  A busy weekend, Saturday in Williamsburg with Joe, a picture of my newest  acquisition is below.  I love it when I find a deal on something I have wanted.  The outlet malls are great!   Sunday I worked, a busy day,  several calls, sometimes all you can be is present in a situation. there are no words that bring comfort.  Its hard sometimes!

I have rediscovered a group I have enjoyed in the past, and I want to share a song of there's here today. The group is Switchfoot, the song is "This is your Life" 

http://youtu.be/LA2CpQWg2pA

 

"Behold I stand at the door and knock, if anyone hears my voice and open the door, I will come into him and fellowship with him, and he with me" Revelation 3:20

 

My Plantdom 2013

This week I added a new plant to my collection.  A Hibiscus which I think is a beautiful flower, I have been wanting on for a while. It will remain in a container, I will be repotting my Azalea and may put the new plant in that pot. Its nice to have a patio with some ground, I have planted a few summer flowers as well.  I also put my chairs out and sit out there.  At least until I am downwind of the smokers! I may transplant one or two of the flowers in pots when we move.  I have a few less plants right now as some have not survived for whatever reason.  Most notably my Rhododendron, died at the old apartment, I think it was overcome by a disease.  I only have three houseplants right now, which is the least I have had in a long time, but I think I am going to wait until a new place before I add anything.  I need to gage sun exposure, plus it will be less to move.  Here are a few pictures of my "plantdom" 

The most blooms ever on this Azalea

 

                                                   Re-bloomers from last fall

                                                           Hibiscus

 

                                               My "Garden"

My flower bed has geraniums, marigold, pansies, chrysanthemum. 

Monday Medley: Memorial Day Edition 2013

Memorial Day 2013 is here. I won't say "Happy Memorial Day"  just does not seem appropriate.  Today I pause to think of all those who have fought, were injured and killed fighting for freedom in all conflicts. 

Today I fly my flag their honor.  Today I also share a youtube video I in honor of the day. 

http://youtu.be/UmCbiibZvX0

 

Tuesday This and That

As I sit here doing my morning computer tasks, I am listening to the President speak on the devastation of the tornado's.  I can not begin to imagine what it must be like to lose everything like that.  I know the fear weather can cause, where I live is prone to hurricanes, which can be devastating as well.  Still I cannot imagine losing a home, and possessions' to such a storm.  Everyone in the path of these storms, who have been or will be impacted are in my prayers. For practical ways to help visit the Red Cross web page. Also keep in prayer those who respond to help that they be strengthened, and enabled to provide the help needed.

A few days ago, I received an offer of a debit card, and a proposal to promote the card on this blog. It was a card that donates to marriage equality, and LGBT issues.   I gave it some thought at least briefly, but decided that was not something I wanted to do with this blog.  I write here to share my journey, to put forth  my own agendas not someone else's agenda.  So no $25 for me, no promotion here.

Seminary update, I am in the process of selecting my classes for next year. I have enough cash squirreled away to pay for one class. So I think it will be on campus Old Testament for the fall. I may continue with the second half of OT in the Winter Term or perhaps an online class since I won't have to travel. I am looking forward to this portion of my journey.

Once the weather is more stable on a day I have time to get out and work in the patio "garden" I will have some pictures to share. I have taken a few already but will share those at that time as well.  I do miss a yard to putter around in.
Stay tuned! 

 

A Classical Monday Medley

Today is a warm, cloudy, with some rain kind of Monday.  For my on call last night there were no calls for two Hospitals. Highly unusual, but I appreciated being able to rest. at least apart from my normal waking to "check" the pagers. The only downside, is  no call back pay, but rest is just as nice. 

Today, I want to share some classical music, just my mood. Its a medley of classical runs about nine minutes, listen, relax, reflect, just CHILL. 

http://youtu.be/buFcwgOWuEk

Monday Medley: Stay Rihanna

A mixed Monday weather wise, it cooler, overcast,  rain possible.   Just have to see what the day brings. I was on call last night, but NO CALLS! Very unusual for this particular hospital.  I even woke up in the wee hours and called the Hospital operator to make sure no one had tried to call. Fortunately no, I rolled over and went sweetly back to sleep. 

Next Sunday I will be on call for two Hospitals, so I think I will be making up for this no call night.

Today I am sharing a song by Rihanna Stay

http://youtu.be/JF8BRvqGCNs

Hope its a good week for all

A MILESTONE FOR THIS BLOG

I check my blogger dashboard frequently, mostly to see the blogs I follow. Its interesting to see where the readers are from, some all over the world.  As well as the posts they view, I only wish there were more comments or dialogue.  I guess there is not much to say?  I started blogging to express myself, and write about my journey out of the closet.  I also wrote about some of my experiences, and hope and dream for a relationship.  My blogging has evolved overtime to include not only my personal journey and thoughts on gay issues, also anything that comes up I want to comment on.  a regular post I started is Monday Medley, where I share songs I like. some by a theme, others are random selections I hear on the radio. 

The milestone?  This blog has had over ten thousand views!  I hope some of my blogging will give a different perspective on being gay and Christian. Sometimes I blog to express myself and invite your thoughts, experiences, to see if I am off track, on track or whatever. 

I thank you for your interest in my blog, your comments, emails, encouragement. Please keep reading! Speak once in a while!

A Micro Eco System

The apartment complex where I live shares a lake with another complex next door.  Its a nice large lake which attracts a variety of wildlife.  The time of year when birds migrate, one can see all manner birds, it can be interesting.  A pleasant walk around the lake can be an interesting experience. Recently, I saw an example of the food chain in nature on our lake. 

On a recent morning walk, I witnessed something out of the ordinary.  Being spring the population of geese has swelled, the nesting geese have hatched their young.  Its cute to see the families waddling around the complex. however, on this particular morning, I saw a goose family on the lake. I stopped to watch as they swam by. There were 6 goslings when I noticed the 4th one in line, was pulled under the water by something. the parents had a fit.  Apparently, something, most likely a bullfrog  made a meal of the gosling! I felt for the parents as they frantically searched for their baby and got the remaining babies to the safety of  land. 

Then on an evening walk this past weekend, I witnessed another sight.  There is a gorgeous white egret or loon that visits the lake frequently.  I saw it that evening near the fishing deck, I paused to try an take a picture of it with my phone's camera.  In a split second the bird dipped it's head in the water and came up with a big frog by the leg, and took off with it!   I have never seen anything like that before in my life! I was startled but in a strange way thought of it as nature's payback for the little gosling. 

A great example of the Eco system at work.


 

Monday Medley: Songs of Faith, Come Thou Fount

Today I begin a once a month Monday Medley post titled songs of faith.  I thought it appropriate since this is the Monday after the first Sunday of the month. In many churches who do not celebrate Communion or Lord Supper each week, the first Sunday of the month is Communion Sunday.  So in a nod to my faith background, my ongoing faith and work, this Monday Medley is a song of faith. 

Just as I enjoy all types of music, I enjoy all types of Christian music.  From traditional, praise and worship, to  rock, even Christian rap.  So here is an opportunity for me to share some of my favorite hymns, songs, and perhaps highlight something different.

Today an old favorite I remember singing as a child, Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing

http://youtu.be/nXVwHONoLjEg.

I wish you peace

 

Gay in the News

What a week or so of news for a world wide gay community!

 First France, legalized Same Sex Marriage nationwide, unfortunately the vocal minority took to the streets which led to violence.  That is sad  a major victory for marriage equality to be marred like that.

Second, for the first time we saw a pro sports player still playing come out of the closet.  What a big bold step for Jason Collins! I hope he will not be discriminated against in the coming season or in the promotional contracts he could have in the future.  I was struck by and could relate to  how relieved he said he was.  Just the opportunity not your mind, and spirit. to hide who you are, is a load off.  I have experienced that relief.  It is a  sweet relief and release. Way to Go!

Third, Rhode Island became another state to legalize Same Sex Unions, the difference here is without religious protections so that could present a problem in in the form of litigation in the future. Still the fact another state approved marriage equality brings the number of states to 10, plus the District of Columbia and three Native American Tribes.  Three states it was by popular vote!

 Then,  Jóhanna Sigurdardóttir, Iceland’s outgoing prime minister and the first openly LGBT person to head a national government, leaves a mixed legacy, with advances on gay rights but only partial success in addressing the nation’s economic problems.  Still she has made history, I hope her ground breaking position is not marred in history by her mixed results. Some thing's one just cannot help.

Lance Bass has said a member of the group One Direction is "probably gay". Well if which ever one he is referring to is or is not, its not up to him to "out" him.  I don't think that is right, its up to the individual to decide when or if to go public about his sexuality.  Its no one's business if whoever is or is not gay! So a thumbs down to Lance.

That's all I want to highlight for now, Happy Friday to all!

Monday Medley- Usher Dive

Its a rainy Monday.  A good  day to sleep but not able to,  Too much left over adrenalin from my on call.  My sleep was interrupted twice, then I thought I would be called again, so I dozed in my recliner. 

Today I'm sharing the song Dive by Usher. 

 http://youtu.be/OIOntfVPBsw

Earth Day Prayer Service

Today we had an Earth Day Prayer Service which I was asked to formulate and lead.  The resulting program although short, hit the mark! I was pleased that those who asked me to prepare the service were pleased! I share the program here with you.
 

EARTH DAY PRAYER SERVICE

Welcome/Invocation

Genesis 1:1, 26

For The Beauty of the Earth V.1

Psalm 139:13-17

Prayer of Thanksgiving

For The Beauty of the Earth V.2

Romans 8:18-22, 25 

Beatitudes for Stewards of Earth by Father Ed Eschweiler  

·        Blessed are they who understand that creation is like a beautiful tapestry, with every strand depending on others.

·        Blessed are they who see the beauty of Earth as a reflection of the beauty of God, who creates

·        Blessed are they who do not waste or spoil Earth's resources, which are for everyone, even those not yet born

·        Blessed are they who reverence all created things as sacred: in God's eyes all creation is good.

·        Blessed are they who reverence the air--the breath of God and the Spirit of our life.

·        Blessed are they who reverence the life-giving waters that sustain the Earth's climate and nourish Earth's inhabitants.

·        Blessed are they who reverence the soil that supports our homes and our footsteps and yields abundant harvests.

·        Blessed are they who reverence the trees and other plants that call down the rains, stabilize the soil, and freshen the air.

·        Blessed ore they who reduce what they consume, re-use what they can, and recycle what they can no longer use.

·        Blessed are they who praise God the Creator in their reverent and gentle use of all things on Earth.

 

 For The Beauty of the Earth V.3

Prayer of Commitment

Father we come before your throne today to commit our lives to the care of your creation. You gave us the earth to use and be stewards of. Now please give us your wisdom to honor you by not abusing what you have created.  Please give us your guidance in doing all we can to restore your creation and use it as you meant it to be used for all generations.  Amen

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monday Medley: It Girl

The third Monday in April, you would think spring is well underway, and it is in most parts. Here its a little cooler than usual, but trees are in full bloom, the azalea[s are bursting forth.  Still its chilly!

Enjoy the music and the Spring Day

http://youtu.be/gbFllvUICKo


Happy Earth Day

Sounding Off

The tragic events of the week are on my mind this morning. As I watched the search and arrest unfold on TV last night, I had enough.  I turned to Netflix and watched something else. The loss of life and limb is so senseless, but  it always is. 

One of the reports talked about the perpetrators posts on Social media. Looking for what caused them to be radicalized and carry out terror.  A comment by one of the brothers  was reported, he apparently said he had enough of this country.  If so my response to that... this is the USA, its a free country.  He was free to leave and go somewhere else.  If indeed he did not like it here,  he was free to go where he would like it. However, I know its not that simple.  At least the one at large suspect is now in custody. 

The tragedy in Texas, all I can say is I pray for the families and all those effected by the plant explosion.  I hope the investigation will help present something similar in the future.

Two tragedies that effected two entire communities this week.  

 

For Boston

Yesterday Boston suffered an attack.  Home grown or foreign, terror is terror.  Looking at the news this morning, it appears this was a detailed attack targeted spectators,  people who were there for family and friends who seemed to target were running in the Marathon. 

My prayers are for the victims, those who lost loved ones, their families, the first responders, the healthcare providers, the people of Boston.

Please join me in praying for these and law enforcement who investigate and plan security. 

 

 

BE ALERT

SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING!

 

 

 

Monday Medley JT: Mirror

Today I want to share a song by Justin Timberlake I heard on the radio.  however, I have not found a version to post that plays the bass the way they don on the radio. This one sounds better, so here it is. Im adding glad you came by the wanted as well. hope you enjoy! 

Happy Monday!

http://youtu.be/U41KPUfOSFk Mirror

http://youtu.be/2ggzxInyzVE  Glad You Came

http://youtu.be/wPn-zUfcZUY  Say the Words

If you have someone in your life you love, let that person know it, don't assume they know how much you love them. One thing I hear so often as a Chaplain, is "I wish I had told him or her how much I love him/her." its usually too late then...