Dating is like a bag of mixed nuts, you reach in and grab one and never know what your going to get. I have dated some over the past few years, and met some very interesting and very nice guys. A few crazies, some gay men are worse than a menstruating woman, sorry ladies.
Most of the time a "date" for me starts from an email or chat online and moves to a face to face meeting at a place where food is served. Some of these dates end there, with no further conversation. Either I'm not what he his looking for, or expecting or he is not for me. Although I am always open to friendship and conversation. Others continue with more chatting, texting, calling and maybe another date. In the interest of keeping it real, hook ups happen, one is only human. Rarely do I meet someone in public and end up asking or being asked on a date. Especially with the work I do, it just does not happen. I would like to share here a few dating experiences that stick out in my mind.
Once when I was living in another part of the state, I had a series of conversations with a guy on the phone that I thought were leading up to a date. Until he brought up the subject of religion, he was a church goer, but struggled with his sexuality and faith. I did not tell him about my work, I was saving that until I knew him better. All I said was I had the same struggle which at that time I did. He went off and told me I would have to choose between him and my faith. Say What??? Where did that come from??? I told him I could not, nor should I have to do that and he angrily hung up on me. Chalk that one up to experience.
Another guy I talked with on the phone for a few weeks, we had a few serious conversations about life and what we were looking for. We met once for lunch and I was hopeful, until he started acting like we were a couple after one lunch together. He became possessive calling me wanting to know where I was, who I was with, and so on. That was a turn off, what if we became a couple? What would that be like? I told him how I felt about his questioning andthat i did not think it would work out. So that was the end of that and I was relieved! There have been a number of dates that have led to continued friendships. But so far not to the love of my life, my life partner.
There is a good friend in my life that I met this way. It started as an email chat. Actually I initiated the chat because I liked what I read in his profile. He was looking for friendship and a relationship, had some witty saying and sounded attractive to me. That email started a chat that led to texts and phone conversations. Which in turn led to a meeting at a local Barnes and Noble Cafe. He told me about a year later, that had I not called him an hour before our meeting to verify it, he was not going to show up. Well he did show up, and we talked for four and half to five hours. It did not seem like five hours at all to me, but we closed the store. As they say the rest is history. Today he is one of my closest friends. A few months ago he called me and we got to talking, and kept on talking. I fixed my soup and sandwich, he fixed his fish, and we ate "together" over the phone. That conversation lasted three hours. Again it did not seem like three hours to me, it flew by. There is no one else I talk to like that and I am thankful for his friendship.
There was a date I had a few years ago that led to a relationship. Next post titled A Boyfriend!
