Recently I learned that a former manager in my department told the Clincial Pastoral Education (CPE) supervisor shortly after he came to our department that I was gay. Don't know any details of how or why that conversation occurred. Fortunately this one he told is LGBT friendly! This is interesting to me in the fact that I never came out to this manager, and not sure how he was sure enough to tell someone else. I am certain he suspected. Now I am wondering who else he told?
Since this gentleman is no longer employed with the company, this occurred three maybe four years ago now, and so far nothing negative has come from his outing of me. I don't really have any need for recourse. At least that is my thought at this moment. I have no need or desire to contact this man and talk about this. No need to.
I will say that I think it is dead wrong for anyone to out another person to anyone. Its not their business, not their place! The damage that can from the doing this could catastrophic to the one who is outed. Its up to that person to come out to whom he or she chooses, and it being a workplace makes it more critical in my mind.
As for the CPE Supervisor, he did not ask me to confirm or deny, just that he was uncomfortable with this information and felt it was time for me to know?? My thought What's that all about? It could be there is a CPE student this summer who is openly gay. I am aware it has been an issue with some of the other students. I don't know why now? I guess it does not really matter. At least I think it does not.
Now I have ad conversations with two of my closest friends about different guys and acknowledging they are gay, but it goes no further, and we three understand the importance of that.
If you are ever tempted to out someone for whatever reason, Please don't! Its the wrong thing to do!
I may say more about this in the near future.
Since this gentleman is no longer employed with the company, this occurred three maybe four years ago now, and so far nothing negative has come from his outing of me. I don't really have any need for recourse. At least that is my thought at this moment. I have no need or desire to contact this man and talk about this. No need to.
I will say that I think it is dead wrong for anyone to out another person to anyone. Its not their business, not their place! The damage that can from the doing this could catastrophic to the one who is outed. Its up to that person to come out to whom he or she chooses, and it being a workplace makes it more critical in my mind.
As for the CPE Supervisor, he did not ask me to confirm or deny, just that he was uncomfortable with this information and felt it was time for me to know?? My thought What's that all about? It could be there is a CPE student this summer who is openly gay. I am aware it has been an issue with some of the other students. I don't know why now? I guess it does not really matter. At least I think it does not.
Now I have ad conversations with two of my closest friends about different guys and acknowledging they are gay, but it goes no further, and we three understand the importance of that.
If you are ever tempted to out someone for whatever reason, Please don't! Its the wrong thing to do!
I may say more about this in the near future.
