Last night I had a dinner date! With a guy who responded to an ad I placed on Craigslist. We had been exchanging emails, then texts and phone conversations. We met at Ruby Tuesday for a nice meal and conversation. I think it went well...so why am I not more enthusiastic?
Well I had the feeling he was not that comfortable, in our conversation he revealed that he is a preachers kid. So I felt comfortable telling him what I do for my living. He did not appear freaked out, which is a big positive. We had talked about our hope of finding someone special to be in our lives. So we decided to explore the possibilities. He is 35, and a bookkeeper, has an established life, never been married. His father Pastor's a church locally. Thing is he made the statement that he wants a boyfriend on the "DL", I understand not being out to his family in his situation, but I'm not sure I'm comfortable with the whole DL thing. I need to talk with him further about this. He said he is not out, which I understand.
I guess my concern is, I spent so much of my life uncomfortable with my sexuality, that I'm not sure I want a relationship that reminds me of those days; Or puts me back in the closet in anyway. Not that I want the world to know, its not their business any way. My impression is he does not want me around, if anyone he knows is nearby. I don't want to close the door on him, so I will be available to explore the possibilities, ask my questions and discuss the issues.
Well I had the feeling he was not that comfortable, in our conversation he revealed that he is a preachers kid. So I felt comfortable telling him what I do for my living. He did not appear freaked out, which is a big positive. We had talked about our hope of finding someone special to be in our lives. So we decided to explore the possibilities. He is 35, and a bookkeeper, has an established life, never been married. His father Pastor's a church locally. Thing is he made the statement that he wants a boyfriend on the "DL", I understand not being out to his family in his situation, but I'm not sure I'm comfortable with the whole DL thing. I need to talk with him further about this. He said he is not out, which I understand.
I guess my concern is, I spent so much of my life uncomfortable with my sexuality, that I'm not sure I want a relationship that reminds me of those days; Or puts me back in the closet in anyway. Not that I want the world to know, its not their business any way. My impression is he does not want me around, if anyone he knows is nearby. I don't want to close the door on him, so I will be available to explore the possibilities, ask my questions and discuss the issues.
1 comment:
Make him a friend. Make him a sex friend. But a DL boyfriend? No way! There are plenty of fish in the sea. Throw this one back and cast your line again.
Are you coming to the Blogger meet-up in Delaware in March? You know about it, right?
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